Puri

Wow! I loved this weeks lesson. I learned something new this week that I had not known before! 

In D&C 42:22 it says: "Thou shalt love they wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else".

Of course! That means to love her and not commit adultery, Right? But we think of Adultery as committing a physical intimate sin. 

BUT, did you know there is more?

In the book, Drawing Heaven Into Your Marriage by H. Wallace Goddard, PhD, shares a chapter on Purity. Purity is staying clean for your spouse in all things. What does all things mean, Goddard states:

"When the Lord says all thy heart, it allows for no sharing no dividing nor depriving...The words none else eliminate everyone and everything. The spouse then becomes preeminent in the life of the husband or wife, and neither social life nor occupational life nor political life nor any other interest nor person nor thing shall ever take precedence over the companion spouse..."

That means anything can get in the way of your marital spouse. Anything! Not just a human being but work or Politics. We can get super obsessed with things that we can forget the most important person, our spouse.

Did you know that there are stages to being unfaithful? Goddard shed some light on these steps and you might be surprised with the end results? I was. But, I'm only going to share the scariest of all the stages that many don't realize their in danger, I mean deep danger as in breaking your scared covenants. 

"...dangerous stage is worrying about what other people may say about the time or affection that you are sharing with the other person...making excuses or telling lies to hide the time or resources spent on the other person...this spouse is displaced as the key recipient of heartfelt communications emotional intimacy is given to an outsider."

This is the stage that "sacred covenants have already been violated and permanent damage lurks."

I have or my husband has never had an affair BUT, he did with his job. Some wives can relate to this story. My husband is a workaholic. He loves challenges. He loves competing against himself and what his abilities are. He loves the start of a new company. I love that he loves it too until it starts to affect our marriage and family. He usually does really good at finding some balance with work and family but this job was different. He had partners and he wanted to feel that he was doing his full share. He gave in all that he had. To the point that we were almost out on the streets. He put too much in and with nothing in return. I couldn't talk to him. He knew what he was doing to me and the kids but couldn't face the shame on my face. So, he stayed away more. He began to work Sundays and those were our family days. I was losing my husband to work. Finally, after much prayer and fasting. I begged my husband to tell me what is going on. He broke down and told me what was happening with this company. He was more worried about what his partners thought of him rather than his wife and kids. It broke him and he saw that it was breaking me. After getting my husband back and much prayer together, he saw how less of the company meant to him compared to his wife and family. Now we are so much happier. We are doing just fine with the new business but he would not have done it without me and his family on his side. He feels that when his wife and children are on his side, God is there also.